How do you feel when things go wrong?
Sometimes, no matter how hard we try, things fall apart - and it doesn’t feel great. It can feel even more uncomfortable when someone else spots our slip-up.
So, what can we do in those moments?
We can remind ourselves that not everything goes as planned, that every person makes mistakes. And that, truthfully, no one is watching as closely as we think.
The funny thing is, when things actually go right, we hardly take a second to notice.
A fleeting moment, and then it’s gone. We move on, chasing the next goal, the next fix, the next win.
We are our own worst critics. We are harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be.
There’s nothing wrong with you for feeling that way - your brain is just doing its job.
Neuroscience tells us our brain is designed to focus on the negative as a survival mechanism, scanning for threats to keep us safe.
But in today’s world, that wiring most often works against us.
Focusing on the positive takes effort; it’s not natural. Yet, it’s necessary.
It’s how we build resilience, confidence, and connection.
So the next time something goes wrong - pause, reflect, acknowledge, then move forward.
And when something goes right - pause for longer, reflect for longer, acknowledge for longer, then move forward.
Celebrate your wins, forgive the stumbles, and remember – you are doing much better than you think you are.
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