Make Meetings Matter

Don't you hate long meetings? Everyone wants to meet about something. Sometimes we even have meetings that are scheduled each week whether or not there is anything to meet about.

Some organisations have thought about the amount of wasted time spent in meetings and they now hold their meetings standing up. A great idea for many reasons - better for your health, no one wants to stand up for too long, we think better on our feet (hence the adage), and meetings are shorter.

Here are some additional tips on making meetings more effective;

• One person in charge - That person keeps the meeting on task and to time.
• Start on time - Don't wait for stragglers, they will soon learn to get there on time or be embarrassed at being late.
• Distractions - Phones off, blinds down, no laptops (some will tell you that this is the way that they take notes. No they don't, that's what the minutes are for).
• Start with the small stuff - To get people warmed up and comfortable with the fast pace, start with your small items first.
• Don't go back - Just like your emails, read it and do something about it immediately. Going back over something means that you have to read it all again.
• Make a decision - Meetings are about making decisions, so make one. If you need more information, assign an action point and get the information out immediately after the meeting then make a decision using your Outlook voting button.
• Minutes - Send out the minutes as soon as they are typed, which again is immediately after the meeting. Don't leave it until the next day because people will have moved on to other things and they will need to waste valuable time recalling what the discussion was about.
• Action points - Assign a name to each AP and a timeline for completion. 
• Finish on time - Humans are clock watchers. If you go into overtime the attendees will be more worried about the time than they will about the topic. 

If you are an attendee at a meeting;

• Be on time.
• Come prepared having read the agenda.
• Make notes of questions that you want answered.
• Keep your questions short.
• If you have nothing to say, say nothing. 
• Respect other peoples opinion.
• Don't go off track, focus.

The next time that you are in a meeting, make a note of how much time is spent on the agenda and how much is wasted on other things. Then add up the salaries of those in the meeting. You will be surprised at how much it costs talking about what everyone did in the weekend! 

There are very few times in our day when we need to strictly adhere to rules, meetings are one of them.

Optimistic Leadership

When I first came across this heading I thought that it was some new term for a leader that is always hoping for the best. And I suppose it is a little bit like that. What it actually is, is the ability to see opportunity in every crisis.

In times of crisis, we often spend 80% of our time looking at what went wrong and who was to blame. The remaining 20% is spent on how to avoid the crisis next time. What we should be doing is looking for opportunities to overcome the crisis.

Up until the 1960's, we learned that achievement was the most important goal and the only way to achieve something was to work hard for it. Achievement was superseded by the 'feel-good', 'I'm OK, You're OK' generation hence they lost the ability to see that you have to work hard at something to achieve it and avoid things going wrong.

The new generation/s soon learnt that just turning up at work and feeling happy about yourself isn't enough. When they don't succeed they feel devastated about it, sometimes even depressed.

Optimism develops by experiencing success and failure. When I coach on optimism, some young people look at me as though I am a bit strange. And I am I guess. Nevertheless when they don't understand that failure is temporary and that there are always opportunities arising from adversity it is difficult for them to be optimistic. They still see optimism as just being happy.

So how do you get them to understand the concept of optimism, you model it. When a crisis happens, or perhaps your team has failed to meet its target, there are three key messages to discuss with your team;

1. The crisis is temporary, it is not eternal.
2. The crisis is specific, it is one or two things that occurred.
3. You can only control what you can control,often the crisis happened through circumstances out of our control.

Acknowledge the disappointment, look at the cure not the cause, and move on quickly so not to dwell on the negative. when they see that life carries on and that you are focussing on the positive things they will learn that optimism is beneficial.

I Hate Mondays!

Unless you are one of those lucky people who really enjoys their job, you are probably prone to Mondayitis. What is it about the first day of the week that most of us don't enjoy and is there a way of changing this? 

As someone who has worked rotating shifts, started the week on different days, and now doesn't really have to start work on a Monday, I know that it is not Monday that is the problem. It's the first day of the working week that is the problem. But you already knew that.

The main cause of Monday blues is that are not enjoying your job, you are not getting any satisfaction in what you are doing. Get a new job I hear people saying. Well, what if you can't get a new job?

Here are some ways that might help you to get over Mondayitis;

1.     On Friday, leave as little work as possible for Monday. Because we just want to get out of the office on Friday we tend to delay the worst jobs until Monday. Do them on Friday when you are feeling good about the weekend coming up.

2.     Also on a Friday afternoon, make a list of what you have to achieve the next week so that you know on Monday what you have to do. Don't forget to add the jobs that make you happy to the list.

3.     Don't check your work emails or do any work 'stuff' over the weekend. Weekends are for you to enjoy and to forget about work.

4.     Go to bed early on a Sunday night to get plenty of rest for the week ahead. We tend to delay going to bed on Sunday night in a futile attempt to delay the inevitable, Monday morning.

5.     Dress as though you mean it. If you look professional you will behave professionally. Wear clothes that you enjoy wearing, save your best 'Sunday best' for Monday.

6.     If you can, avoid meetings on a Monday. Government departments are great at holding meetings on Mondays. Try and get them changed to a Tuesday. No one likes meetings let alone on a Monday. If you have to hold a meeting on a Monday, make them quick, set a time and stick to it.

7.     Look ahead to something pleasant. It may be something coming up during the week, or next weekend, or perhaps longer term. When you feel a bit down, thinking about happy things will change your mind-set.

8.     Don't procrastinate over jobs that have to be done on a Monday. Get them done as quickly as you can. Do them first in fact.

9.     Make someone else happy. Open a door, make them a coffee, pay them a compliment, do something for someone else and watch what happens to your mood when they thank you.

10. Be positive. There it is, the biggest one that you can do. Personally, I don't like to use the word positive because for me it gives the impression of people living their life away from reality. I prefer to say, be optimistic. Whatever word you like, think that way. Research tells us that if we think happy thoughts we can change our attitude. 

Monday is just another day, albeit it is the start of the working week. If it wasn't for Monday you couldn't start your week and then you wouldn't get paid for that week! You need Monday, Monday is here to stay. Embrace Monday, get stuck in to it and know that it is you who needs to change. 

Stop For A Moment

The world is moving so fast now that it is difficult to predict where we are heading and in which direction it will take. It is safe to say that technological advances have catapulted us headlong into the future.

Companies must maximise the use of technology to make it easy for them and for their market. They must also continuously look for a point of difference. They must either battle against their competitors or join with them to remain in operation.

People are no different, we must adapt to the ever-changing environment which can be overwhelming for some. Mostly, it overwhelms those of us who are slightly 'older'.

Those of us from the Baby Boomer era enjoyed our slow-paced life. We had time to sit and read a book, to take a walk, to spend time with our family, to smell the roses. Well, we still can and it may just help us by doing so.

I am always busy meeting with people, presenting at events, delivering coaching workshops, and running a business. Like most of us, I also have other things on the go. Some belong to a sports club, others a hobby group, and for me it is supporting not-for-profits. Busy, busy, busy.   

The other day I stopped and sat with my two grandchildren. One (aged 4) was reading a story on the i-Pad, the other (aged 2) was watching a video clip on an i-Phone. Both a proficient in the use of technology, it's not a novelty but a necessity for them. They know more about how to use technology than I do.

I sat on the lounge floor beside the toy box and both grandchildren stopped what they were doing and came and played with the toys that were scattered around the floor. We played for just 10 minutes. 

Did this make a difference for them, the smile on their faces showed me it did. Did this make a difference for me, you bet. When the grandchildren went home, I was smiling, contented, and invigorated. I was happy to go back to my work and did so with a renewed enthusiasm.

Maybe there is something in what research tells us. Maybe it is good to stop for a while. Maybe I should stop for a moment more often. Sit and just talk. Such a familiar concept but an unusual practice these days. 

The Change Cycle

Have you ever wondered why we can predict how the brain will behave in any given situation? Why most of us behave in similar patterns? Why we can remember some things and not others?

Apart from science and research providing us with most of the answers, our brains have predictable cycles and patterns. Most cycles work in 5's;

Grief - Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.

Hate - Angry feelings, rage, tense body, adverse reaction, bitterness/resentment.

Sleep - Drowsiness, light sleep, deep sleep, delta, and REM.

Violence - Abuse, fear, blame, normalcy, then tension re-builds.

Communication - Trigger, internal reaction, mental reaction, verbal reaction, await response.

Sexual Response - Desire, excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution.

I added that last one in to keep you interested in this post.....

So how does this help us? It is beneficial for those who manage change in the workplace. By identifying which stage people are at in the change reaction cycle, you can tailor the amount and frequency of information that you provide staff.

The change reaction cycle is comparable to the grief cycle;

1. Denial - The head-in-the-sand, it's not going to happen phase. Provide lots of communication on why the need to change is required.
2. Anger - This is the time to back off, you won't win the argument. Give those who are most angry something to do towards the change project. Listen to what they have to say and show plenty of empathy.
3. Bargaining - You know you are here when the union becomes involved, when staff work slower as a sign of defiance. Talk about the benefits of change, how it will be easier for them once the change is introduced, how they can do more with less. The temptation is to play hard-ball, don't.
4. Depression - Now is the time to meet one-on-one with your staff. Personalise your messages, get staff talking about how they feel and encourage them to ask questions. Take your time in this phase, it will reduce the overall period in the long-term.
5. Acceptance - You will see a recognised change in behaviour as staff start to realise that the change was for a reason, that it is for the better, and that they were an integral part of it.

Keep the momentum going, make change the new normal if you want to reduce anxiety around change. More importantly, you will need to keep changing to stay in business.