For years, I carried traits that shaped how I showed up in the world - imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and OCD.
They influenced my decisions, my relationships, and importantly, how I saw myself. Someone who felt as though they didn’t fit in.
It wasn’t until I took the time to understand where these traits came from that I began to truly understand who I am.
These weren’t flaws, they were simply responses. Responses I had learned from past experiences, environments and expectations.
👉 Imposter Syndrome – often stems from early experiences of high expectations, comparison, or inconsistent validation. My success was tied to external approval rather than internal confidence.
👉 Perfectionism – can develop in environments where mistakes aren't safe, or where love and acceptance feel conditional on achievement. I was continuously scolded and punished for not being able to focus.
👉 OCD is more complex - it’s a mental health condition with both neurological and psychological components. For me, was also a way to create control in a world that felt unsafe.
Understanding how these traits developed supported me in making peace with who I am. I wasn’t broken, I was responding in the only way I knew how.
Understanding yourself isn’t always easy. It takes great courage to look inward, to critique oneself.
But it’s one of the most powerful things you can do; not just for your own growth, but for the people you care about.
If you have ever felt like you’re not enough, or like you must be perfect to be accepted, you are not alone.
You are not broken. You are human. Fragile, vulnerable, yet so important to others.
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