Most of us put off hard conversations - not because we’re weak, but because we care how they’re received.
Keep these tips in mind the next time you’re nervous to speak up:
🔎 Start by preparing yourself. Get clear on why you're making the request - what’s driving it, and what outcome you’re hoping for. Keep it clear, specific, and easy to explain.
⏰ Pick your moment. Timing can make all the difference. Choose a time when your supervisor isn’t under pressure, and ideally when they’re more likely to be receptive and present.
💬 Be direct and honest, without being blunt. Clearly and respectfully state what you need, explaining why it matters both to you and to them. Clarity builds trust and makes it easier for them to understand your perspective.
🤝 Stay flexible and avoid coming on too strong. Pushing too hard can create resistance, and setting a rigid bottom line might close doors. Being open to compromise shows professionalism and increases your chances of a positive outcome.
💡 Offer solutions when you can. Suggest practical ways to address your request that make it easier for your supervisor to say yes. Showing you’ve thought things through demonstrates initiative and consideration.
🧘♂️ Remain calm and open to feedback. Listen carefully to their concerns without getting defensive. Showing you appreciate their input builds respect and keeps the conversation constructive.
🌟 Keep it positive and professional. Staying composed and confident helps set the tone and shows you’re serious and respectful throughout the conversation.
Remember: asking for what you need is a sign of confidence and professionalism.
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How to Ask Your Supervisor for Something You're Dreading to Ask For