Most of us do it - overthink, overreact, over-worry, and over-analyse
The truth is, we can't stop the negative bias that is hardwired into our brains. I have met many positive people, and when asked if they are positive all the time, the answer is always the same: no.
We need that negative bias to keep us safe, to keep us from making the same mistake that got us into trouble last time, to keep us from doing dumb things, to keep us on alert, and to keep us at our best.
I challenge anyone to tell me that they have never had a negative thought, never sat and pondered their mistakes, never felt guilt or regret, and never wondered "What if" or "If only". History (evolution) ensures that we have these thoughts so that we can survive and thrive.
So what do positive people do?
From what I’ve noticed, positive people manage negative thinking by making amends, dealing with their problems in some practical way, looking for the positives, or dismissing it altogether and moving on if none of the first three options are available.
That's the secret in all of this: if you can't fix it, then forget it. As the thought comes into your head - acknowledge it, apologise or make amends for what occurred, work hard to make it right, look at what you learnt from it, and then move on as quickly as possible.
Worry, guilt, and regret - these are the things that will take you down if you continue to let them get the better of you. (And that’s all they are, thoughts).
Stop being so hard on yourself. The more that you practice this, the easier it will become.
Break the habit, right now. You are the only you that we have, and the world needs you.
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Managing Negative Thoughts!