Why Do I Like Things To Be Simple

It is no secret that our attention span has reduced significantly over recent years. Recent studies suggest that we have the attention span of just eight seconds, one second less than a goldfish. I am doubtful on that particular piece of research.

However, I know from my coaching sessions that most people remain engaged for around two and a half minutes unless I move about, have lots of power-point slides to give them something to look at (instead of my ugly mug) introduce humour to produce endorphins which will make them feel good, and have a variety of interactions.

 A modern day city dweller now takes in as much information during a twenty-four-hour day as the brain of those who lived in medieval Britain would have done in the course of their entire lifetime. Frightening isn't it?

Despite this recent phenomenon, which is from advances in technology, our brains remain hardwired for simplicity hence we can become overwhelmed at times. We often tend to look for simple things displayed in simple ways to reduce the inflow of information that continues to bombard our brain.

A study showed that double the number of people purchased a product that had easy to read typeface on the packaging compared to one with difficult to read typeface. Using big words no longer cuts it for most people.

Have you noticed that websites are starting to become simpler to read (mine is really simple because of the owner) phones are placing less number and much simpler apps on their screens, and cars are returning to plain dashboards.

In simplicity lies beauty. Our brains continue to search for simplicity because technology has filled our world with complexity and our brains haven't quite caught up yet.

If you are a marketer, a presenter, a coach, in fact anyone who interacts with people on a regular basis, you may want to turn back the clock a little and keep it simple. After all, our brains are wired that way. 

Replace 'Why' With 'How'.

As we all know, we should never ask a person why they did something as this is a word that places blame. Rather, we should use the word how instead.

Never say to a person "Why did you do that?" It is accusatory, sounds condescending or arrogant, and makes the other person feel guilty. Ask the same question using the word how. "How did this happen" or if you must "What was the reason for this happening."

Organisations spend most of their time asking questions as to why things happen rather than how they happened when things go wrong in business. When using the word why what they are actually asking is who is to blame.

In a similar vein, we ask ourselves why when things go wrong in our lives. "Why does this always happen to me, why do bad things always happen when I am a good person, and why can't I get what I want."

The reason why the word why is such a negative word comes from our childhood. When we made mistakes as an infant, our parents would always use the word why in a blameful way. "Why did you do that when I told you not to" we would be scorned. 

The word why limits our thoughts and our brain shuts down our creative side due to the negative connotations associated with this word.

The word how on the other hand has positive associations. Returning to the childhood analogy, when our parents asked us how something happened they often did so in a way that was inquiring so that we would learn from our mistakes.

The next time something goes wrong, use the word how.  How did this happen, how can we avoid this again, and most importantly, how can we move forward.

Procrastination, Me? Let Me Think About That For A While!

Procrastination may be causing you more harm than you actually know. Procrastination eats away at you, it always sits in the back of your brain, lurking, waiting to pounce when you least need it to.

So why do we procrastinate? I recently read a suggestion that there are three reasons for procrastination;

1.      Ruminators - We can't make a decision so delay it.

2.     Avoiders - Because of a fear of failure we don’t want to start the task.

3.     Perfectionists - Those who aren't happy unless they can give something 100% effort and now is not that time.

For me, none of these resonate. I procrastinate because I think that what I am about to undertake is either too hard or it is not urgent enough yet. Looking at each;

1.      Too hard - I put things off if I think it is too hard in the hope that an idea will come to me eventually. And often it does but always in the last minute which leads me to the next reason.

2.     Not urgent enough - I have a false sense that if something is left until the very last minute I will be under pressure and because of that I feel that I work better under pressure. And we do to a point.

The problem with both of these excuses is that I haven't resolved to get onto what it is that I have to do and it plays on my mind. So what do I now do to overcome this?

I start something and then leave it until I need to finish it. I have found this is a great way of alleviating the worry that comes from not doing something but allows me to work under pressure at the last minute and finish the task to the 100% self-requirement.

Doing part of a task has many advantages;

1.      I have started the task so I know it is underway therefore I am less worried about it.

2.     Starting something puts the idea into me head and my subconscious continues with the task in my head, giving me ideas for when I get back to it.

3.     When I do complete the task I am armed with the latest information therefore the task is relevant and up-to-date.

When doing nothing is not an option, and you don't think it is right to finish it immediately, just do half. This will relax your brain knowing that you have at least started it and ideas will start to flow.

And by the way, do get onto the small stuff, don’t ignore it. Small stuff will build and become big stuff if you procrastinate. Just choose your small stuff wisely.