Grumpy Old Man!

I recently read a book  titled 'The Grumpy Old Gits Guide To Life.' It is a humourous book and fun to read. This got me thinking though about our workplaces. Most companies have them, grumpy old men and grumpy old women. These are what I term the patriarchs and matriarchs. These are important people in your organisation, they can make or break a business.

Here are the 10 signs that you have a patriarch or matriarch in your organisation;

1. They never miss a chance to moan.
2. They sigh a lot or look out the window during training sessions.
3. They always want someone independent with them during performance meetings.
4. They often involve the union, not for support but as a threat.
5. They have been there and done that, with a story for every occasion.
6. They resist change, "why change when things are going fine".
7. They can be found at the water cooler spreading rumours.
8. They never volunteer for anything but will criticise when things go wrong.
9. They have a strong influence over the junior staff.
10. They have their own coffee mug at work.

If you are reading this and can't think of anyone that fits this profile in your company then it may be you who is the patriarch or matriarch! So how do you manage these people? Involve them. Put them on your project committees, here's the reasons why;

1. They have wonderful institutional maturity and knowledge.
2. They have seen many changes and can tell you what worked and what didn't.
3. Although they are grumpy and like to be the centre of attention, they are also don't want to be seen as the 'peacock'. They don't posses the 'look at me' factor, they just do their job despite the grumbles.
4. They will counter group-think by arguing against all suggestions, this will stop the project going down the wrong path.
5. They mitigate strong personalities therefore one or two people won't have all of the say on the project team.
6. Being part of the team will encourage them to support the change.

Remember to only have one matriarch or patriarch on each project team otherwise you may not achieve what you are after.

Value the grumpy old men and grumpy old women in your organisation, they have a lot to offer.

In Businees, Use Adversity as an Advantage

In business we often find ourselves facing adversity. We did not secure the contract we were after, we didn't meet our weekly quota, we were criticised by the media. So what then is a way to use this adversity as an advantage?  Leveraging off the adversity is what sometimes works.

For example, you lost a contract because you failed to deliver on an agreed service level. In a situation like this the first thing we often do is look for blame. Who was responsible, whose at fault, and how can we seek recompense.

An alternative approach is to identify the cause of the adversity and use it as a focal point for your energy. Apportioning blame is wasted energy. In our example, you didn't meet the service agreement so why was that? Was it because you didn't have the right number of staff available, the staff weren't trained adequately, or perhaps it was a managerial error.

Once you have identified the cause,  work quickly to rectify it then use this new impetus to promote your business positively. In a marketing campaign you might say "Because we are committed to our clients, we undertook a robust recruitment drive and trained our team to the highest standard so that we could meet the increasing demands on our business". This statement says that you failed but immediately fixed the problem so that it won't happen again.

People like honesty. We all make mistakes and it is the brave who acknowledge it. People also like to know that you have learned from the mistake. History is littered with examples of companies and people who failed. All learned from their mistakes and used the mistake to gain success. “Failure is success if we learn from it.” - Malcolm Forbes.

Facing Down Adversity

I have read many articles encouraging others to use adversity as a springboard for the future, of the need to get back on the horse immediately after you fall, that many of those who have failed went on to become successful. I am also one who writes posts expressing the same view, of the need to carry on regardless of the situation.

What I have not read much about is how to do this. How do you use adversity as a springboard, how do you get back on that horse, how do you simply carry on when you have failed in your own eyes? I am one of those who did fall, not as heavily as others, but enough to slow me down for a few years.

Here's a way that worked for me. Everything. Because our brain is a complicated beast it needs support and stimulation in many and varied ways. So I read lots of books, tried lots of mind-changing techniques (some of which are on my website), viewed lots of videos, got myself fit, and most importantly I kept moving forward. That was the secret for me, to keep moving forward and find new ways to repair myself.

If I had given up when I fell down I would not have become a crisis negotiator, nor gone to the FBI Academy, nor to the Australian counter terrorist negotiators course, nor to the Delhi Commonwealth Games and London Olympics, I would not have achieved a Master of Arts Degree and double Diplomas, the list goes on. I say this not to show off but to inspire others.

Picking yourself up after a fall is not easy, in fact some never can without continued support from something or someone. Finding a way back up is different for us all, the common ground is that you need to keep going. Keep reading, keep trying, work hard to find the various techniques that will work for you.

No longer is there a negative stigma attached to brain sickness (mental illness) as there once was. And that is a good thing, a great thing in fact. The more that we talk and share our personal stories the more we can understand brain sickness for what it actually is, another of life's adversities. As we tell our story it also becomes easier to accept that we fell.

Worker Vs Leader Vs Manager

Which is the most important role in a company, the worker, the leader or the manager? Can one do without the other, can the roles be combined, and is it important to differentiate the roles? In this discussion a leader is the front-line supervisor who in-turn is supervised by a manager.

I once heard a discussion between a bricklayer and his labourer.  The labourer wanted more money and was pushing his point by saying that without him loading the bricks, mixing the mortar, and building the scaffold the bricklayer couldn't lay the bricks.

The bricklayer countered that he was the tradesman, the person who had trained for four years so that he was able to lay the bricks properly.  He followed with "If I don't lay the bricks neither of us will get paid." A good point. The labourer came back with "But you couldn't lay the bricks without the bricks and mortar." It was a circular argument.

Never one to sit back quietly and listen to a discussion without wanting to add something myself so I expressed that the bricklayer could mix the mortar and load the bricks himself but he could never lay as many bricks. Likewise, the labourer could do the same but the bricks wouldn't be laid as fast and perhaps not as decorous. Then we must think of the site manager without whom you wouldn't know when and where to start laying the bricks.

The answer was of course that all relied on each other to perform at their best. Organisations are the same. You need good managers to manage the business so that team leaders can supervise staff, and the staff have to be good at their work to achieve the organisations goals. At the top you could also have a person who is a strong manager and an inspirational leader but that isn't the purpose of this discussion.

Is there a more important role, the worker, the leader, the manager? For me the answer is no. Is there a more important title, for me it is yes because we can all become one regardless of our role.  A leader.  Leaders aren't just those who have the word in their title or job description, they lead in whatever part of the organisation they work in.

To me a leader is a person who shows others what to do, one who leads by setting a positive example. And that person can be at any level in the organisation. No matter what your role may be, become a leader and positively influence those around you. The rewards of doing so will be returned to you.

Social Media - A Curse or Cure

Much has been said over recent times about the benefits or otherwise of social media. Some people like it, and generally this comment is from those who use it a lot, while others espouse the destruction of communication if we continue to use this rapidly growing phenomenon.  Here's my view on social media, and I do see the irony in sending it to you via a social medium.

Like everything in life, if we use something properly it can benefit us and if we misuse it,it may harm us.  Social media is no different.  Here are a few rules on social media that I try to adhere to;

1. Use the correct medium - If it belongs on Facebook then that is where it should stay unless it has a universal message.
2. Keep it short - Keep your message short unless you have some interesting things to say. Most people don't read a long article unless it is what they are interested in or has interesting content.
3. Know what to say - Have a clear message so others know what you are talking about.
4. Be careful with your words - Words are more powerful than we think, choose your words wisely so that they don't offend, bully, or hurt.
5. Don't post something in anger - Never post a message on social media while you are angry, it will inevitably end badly for you. When angry we say hurtful things, not because we want to but because it makes us feel better at the time.
6. Proof read your item - If the medium that you are posting to is formal, such as LinkedIn, then you may want to proofread your content at least twice. Does the article say what you want it to, is it written properly, is it grammatically correct, are there spelling mistakes? Don't fret too much however, the important part is your actual message and there are vernacular differences across countries.
7. You can always edit or delete - If you make a mistake after posting, go back and edit the item as soon as you can. If you can't edit the post then delete it and start again. Never leave a posting out there with mistakes or that you don't like and hope that people won't read it because they will!
8. It is only an opinion - What we say on social media is simply our own opinion regardless of what facts the content is based on. Don't get too precious if someone disagrees, they are also correct.
9. Do not use social media to deliver bad news - Some things have to be said in person. Don't hide behind a computer if you are delivering bad news, say it in person.
10. Social media is not socialisation - Posting a message on a site does not have the same personal value as talking to people face-to-face. We all need to socialise, in doing so we share, learn and grow.

For me, social media is one of the greatest things since the invention of the wheel.  Like all inventions, it takes time to find how to get the full use of it and how to use it properly.  Social media has tremendous impact if we use it correctly. 

Remember of course that these suggestions are just one persons opinion.